All in Bonding in Stepfamilies
It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that love is about "more or less", "better or worse" in stepfamily life. That's a competition that no one can win. You need to adopt a different mindset if you want everyone to really win. Here's where to shift your focus.
Step-parenting can be confusing, chaotic and exhausting! For some, that might even be an understatement. But, sometimes we make it more confusing than it really needs to be. Here's three things every step-parent can focus on to gain some clarity in the chaos.
Many step-couples experience disappointment when their family doesn't seem to be 'blending' in a way that builds strong bonds. Discover how to 'cook' your stepfamily so that healthy bonds will naturally grow. Then you can relax and enjoy your family more!
Most of our dreams and fairytales are centered around the things we get. But in reality, living fairytale moments is determined more by what we give. Find out 5 practical ways your commitments can move you closer to what you really want.
It's so easy to get "high-centered" on differences. Stepfamily life is already chaotic — the conflict your differences seem to create adds more fuel to the fire! But what if that fuel could be used for a good outcome? Maybe your differences are actually a good thing…
It's so easy to focus on the negative when it comes to talking about life in a blended family. It's true…stepfamilies come with some unique challenges, but they also come with some opportunities to build some great strengths. Here's 3 positives you may not have thought about.
Every blended family faces some disappointments…it's part of the journey. But, less disappointment equals more peace, joy and connection. Here's 4 tips on how to minimize disappointments so you and your family can live a happier life!
Creating connections in blended families isn't always intuitive. The most successful step-couples work on it as a team. Here's 5 steps you can take together that will help create more connection.
It can be frustrating when your kids don't seem to notice the great qualities in your spouse/partner. You can't force them to like their step-parent, but you can use this hidden strategy to help them discover more of what you see!
Vulnerability isn't a virtue in our modern day culture. When vulnerability is absent in our homes, bonds break down. We all try to hide behind a façade to feel better about ourselves to some degree. But our kids and step-kids need to see behind the curtain. Here's three reasons you need to be vulnerable at home
Your kids and step-kids are each unique. They have a way of perceiving the world that doesn't always match yours. How can you be sure what you want to teach them is really getting through? Here's a great resource for parenting in a way that meets kids where they are.
Did you know it takes an average of 7 years for a stepfamily to start 'clicking'? Should you just wait around for connections to build, or can you do something to speed it up? Here's an idea on how you might shorten the average.
I wanted to make a positive difference in my step-daughter's life. Establishing my authority must be one a first priority in order to get there, right? Maybe not...here's another way...
Mid-life step-couples are often stunned and disappointed when their adult children object to their decision to remarry. Understanding a few helpful tips can help lead to more acceptance and peace with everyone in your new stepfamily.
Parenting is challenging for any couple, but step-couples need to carefully strategize the best approach to disciplining their kids, or the results can be detrimental. Learn how to facilitate close step-family relationships while following through on discipline in your home.
Strife in blended families can sometimes show up early and stick around late! Living under the same roof creates unexpected frustrations. If you identify with this…you're normal! Here's some simple ideas to help you move forward.
Communication can be tough in stepfamily life. Parents and step-parents sometimes wonder if what they really want to say is getting through. It will help if you drop these three words from your vocabulary!
Extending empathy can be challenging in the complexities of stepfamily life. Sometimes it's easier just to avoid the discomfort of engaging in each other's struggles. Let's get better at responding with empathy so that we can lead our stepfamily toward connection!
What results are you achieving with your step-kid(s)? If you're like me, you like to get results from your efforts. When it comes to our step-kids, it can be tough to figure out what we want our results to be and even tougher to figure out how to achieve them! Father's Day might actually help!
For moms and step-moms in stepfamilies, Mother's Day can sometimes be tainted with disappointment, resentment or heartache. But it doesn't have to be! Here's some thoughts that might help you have a great Mother's Day this year!