All in Parenting in Stepfamilies
Step-parenting is hard! And sometimes it feels like the step kids are against you…and worse against your marriage. It's enough to make any step-parent wonder if their step-kids are the cause of the frustration and hopelessness they feel. But what if there's more to it?
I went into stepfamily life believing I'd have the ability to make everyone happy — my daughter and my new husband. That was an unrealistic expectation! The reality is that I found myself trapped in the middle, desperately trying to appease them both…and failing miserably! If you can relate to this, read this post to discover how to break free from this trap today…
Stepmoms — don't be blindsided by Mother's Day disappointment! Discover 3 survival tips that you (and your husband) can use to get off the emotional roller coaster. You too can SHINE!
Guilt is a strong emotion! It can hijack our thoughts and crush our confidence. Sometimes it can feel like we're in a deep, dark pit. But it doesn't have to…discover 3 things to consider the next time you find yourself sliding into the "guilt-pit".
Unconditional love is often difficult to wrap our brains around. Can it really exist in stepfamilies? Sometimes it feels like we'll never experience the respect, connection…or unconditional love we may have hoped for early on. Here's some things to consider as you keep moving forward.
Your kids want to be connected to the people they love — just like you do. They want to be able to enjoy their relationships without any strings attached. But often kids who move back and forth between two separate homes are stuck in the belief that they must align with one parent or the other. Here's 3 ways to help them get unstuck…
It's never too early to start talking to an Ex about your summer plans. Getting started now will help you make sure your fun family vacation doesn't turn into a major scheduling conflict. Here's some helpful tips on how to start negotiating with an Ex today…
Milestone Moments like the first day of Kindergarten or shopping for the Prom are big moments for kids — and for parents! And it's hurtful when you miss out on one of those moments. That's a common challenge when kids are moving between two homes. Read this article to find out how you can navigate milestones moments without creating conflict or hurt feelings.
Telling the kids "Big News" can be nerve wracking! It's tough to know exactly what to say and you never know how they might react. But you don't have to stress about it when you use these 4 steps to prepare for the conversation…
The complexity of stepfamily life can sometimes lead to unexpected challenges. Favoritism is one of those challenges that can wreak havoc and cause a lot of pain for kids and adults alike. Discover 4 Favoritism Traps and how you can build more equality in your stepfamily.
Every parent wants to raise responsible kids, but telling our kids to be responsible seems to go in one ear and out the other. Read this article to understand how you can help your kids to internalize and learn to take responsibility for their own behavior…this logical strategy may surprise you!
It's tough when your kids say something that hurts. We get lost in our own emotions and often respond in a way we later regret. Here's 3 steps you can take to handling it well when hurtful words come from your kids…
We all understand that kids need motivation and guidance as they learn to manage their own behavior. But what's the best way to use incentives and rewards to move kids in the right direction? Find out how to help kids manage behaviors without resorting to ineffective bribery.
Power struggles in step-relationships pop up all the time! And the truth is step-couples can avoid them when they learn good strategies for parenting as a team. Here's 3 steps to getting there…
We all want to experience more connection in our stepfamilies. Here's 52 fun ways — big and small — that you can make that happen!
So often we get caught up in the short game — we make snap decisions in the moment without considering the long-term impact of those decisions. Find out how to play the long game instead. This could lead to big wins for your stepfamily now and in the future.
It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that love is about "more or less", "better or worse" in stepfamily life. That's a competition that no one can win. You need to adopt a different mindset if you want everyone to really win. Here's where to shift your focus.
Step-parenting can be confusing, chaotic and exhausting! For some, that might even be an understatement. But, sometimes we make it more confusing than it really needs to be. Here's three things every step-parent can focus on to gain some clarity in the chaos.
Sometimes well-meaning advice isn't the BEST advice. Many step-couples enter marriage deciding to put their relationship above everything else. But they're blindsided by how complicated that is. Let's clarify the realities and bring stability back to your home.
A 'Code of Conduct' for your family can help everyone to move forward together. Check out this article to learn how to create and implement your own Code of Conduct today.