All in Parenting in Stepfamilies
Overcoming your own fears when your child talks about their struggles is tough. You may feel inadequate. You might experience some guilt. Or maybe it's just uncomfortable. But, your kids need you to be their partner when they process difficult emotions. Here's why.
It can be frustrating when your kids don't seem to notice the great qualities in your spouse/partner. You can't force them to like their step-parent, but you can use this hidden strategy to help them discover more of what you see!
Vulnerability isn't a virtue in our modern day culture. When vulnerability is absent in our homes, bonds break down. We all try to hide behind a façade to feel better about ourselves to some degree. But our kids and step-kids need to see behind the curtain. Here's three reasons you need to be vulnerable at home
Entering into stepfamily life, bio-parents can have idealistic hopes, beliefs and expectations. But often the 'vision' of their family's future together doesn't seem to match reality. Discover 3 "P's" that will help parents avoid feeling frustrated and disappointed when things don't go as expected.
Being a step-parent is challenging. We often feel criticized by our culture and the media which goes so far as labeling us 'evil'! Sometimes we might wonder if we are an 'evil' step-parent when our step-kids treat us as if it were true. Don't fall for it! Here's 3 "P's" for Step-Parents that defy the lie.
Parents and step-parents often worry about how the kids' attitudes are going to impact the holiday celebrations. They can get focused on what they want from the kids, but maybe it's time to shift the focus. Here's five tips that can help.
Preparing kids for their future is daunting in any family. In stepfamilies, it can be even more challenging. Here's three simple ways to help you stay on the right track.
Your kids and step-kids are each unique. They have a way of perceiving the world that doesn't always match yours. How can you be sure what you want to teach them is really getting through? Here's a great resource for parenting in a way that meets kids where they are.
"My time with my kids is limited…I just want it to be fun!" We know you want your time with the kids to be positive. It can feel like disciplining will ruin that. But how will your family be impacted if you step back from setting healthy boundaries? Consider two next steps in your parenting today!
Did you know it takes an average of 7 years for a stepfamily to start 'clicking'? Should you just wait around for connections to build, or can you do something to speed it up? Here's an idea on how you might shorten the average.
I wanted to make a positive difference in my step-daughter's life. Establishing my authority must be one a first priority in order to get there, right? Maybe not...here's another way...
Mid-life step-couples are often stunned and disappointed when their adult children object to their decision to remarry. Understanding a few helpful tips can help lead to more acceptance and peace with everyone in your new stepfamily.
Parenting is challenging for any couple, but step-couples need to carefully strategize the best approach to disciplining their kids, or the results can be detrimental. Learn how to facilitate close step-family relationships while following through on discipline in your home.
Parents and step-parents can sometimes cause their kids to feel stuck. Adults want to move on with their life, but kids are still clinging to the past. Learn how to help your kids get unstuck.
Conflict in stepfamily life is a predictor of negative outcomes for kids. Read this week's post to find new ways to "combat conflict" and focus on building peace in your home.
Communication can be tough in stepfamily life. Parents and step-parents sometimes wonder if what they really want to say is getting through. It will help if you drop these three words from your vocabulary!
Extending empathy can be challenging in the complexities of stepfamily life. Sometimes it's easier just to avoid the discomfort of engaging in each other's struggles. Let's get better at responding with empathy so that we can lead our stepfamily toward connection!
What results are you achieving with your step-kid(s)? If you're like me, you like to get results from your efforts. When it comes to our step-kids, it can be tough to figure out what we want our results to be and even tougher to figure out how to achieve them! Father's Day might actually help!
Children can face hundreds of tensions living in a stepfamily structure. We don't like to see them struggling, so we jump right to "fix-it" mode. Why doesn't it seem to help? Why do we keep facing the same problem over and over again. Let's see if we can figure this out.
Living in a blended family can feel so "heavy" so much of the time. Here's a few simple ideas to lighten the load!