All in Bonding in Stepfamilies
It's so easy to focus on the negative when it comes to talking about life in a blended family. It's true…stepfamilies come with some unique challenges, but they also come with some opportunities to build some great strengths. Here's 3 positives you may not have thought about.
Every blended family faces some disappointments…it's part of the journey. But, less disappointment equals more peace, joy and connection. Here's 4 tips on how to minimize disappointments so you and your family can live a happier life!
Creating connections in blended families isn't always intuitive. The most successful step-couples work on it as a team. Here's 5 steps you can take together that will help create more connection.
It can be frustrating when your kids don't seem to notice the great qualities in your spouse/partner. You can't force them to like their step-parent, but you can use this hidden strategy to help them discover more of what you see!
Vulnerability isn't a virtue in our modern day culture. When vulnerability is absent in our homes, bonds break down. We all try to hide behind a façade to feel better about ourselves to some degree. But our kids and step-kids need to see behind the curtain. Here's three reasons you need to be vulnerable at home
Your kids and step-kids are each unique. They have a way of perceiving the world that doesn't always match yours. How can you be sure what you want to teach them is really getting through? Here's a great resource for parenting in a way that meets kids where they are.
Did you know it takes an average of 7 years for a stepfamily to start 'clicking'? Should you just wait around for connections to build, or can you do something to speed it up? Here's an idea on how you might shorten the average.
I wanted to make a positive difference in my step-daughter's life. Establishing my authority must be one a first priority in order to get there, right? Maybe not...here's another way...
Mid-life step-couples are often stunned and disappointed when their adult children object to their decision to remarry. Understanding a few helpful tips can help lead to more acceptance and peace with everyone in your new stepfamily.
Parenting is challenging for any couple, but step-couples need to carefully strategize the best approach to disciplining their kids, or the results can be detrimental. Learn how to facilitate close step-family relationships while following through on discipline in your home.
Strife in blended families can sometimes show up early and stick around late! Living under the same roof creates unexpected frustrations. If you identify with this…you're normal! Here's some simple ideas to help you move forward.
Communication can be tough in stepfamily life. Parents and step-parents sometimes wonder if what they really want to say is getting through. It will help if you drop these three words from your vocabulary!
Extending empathy can be challenging in the complexities of stepfamily life. Sometimes it's easier just to avoid the discomfort of engaging in each other's struggles. Let's get better at responding with empathy so that we can lead our stepfamily toward connection!
What results are you achieving with your step-kid(s)? If you're like me, you like to get results from your efforts. When it comes to our step-kids, it can be tough to figure out what we want our results to be and even tougher to figure out how to achieve them! Father's Day might actually help!
For moms and step-moms in stepfamilies, Mother's Day can sometimes be tainted with disappointment, resentment or heartache. But it doesn't have to be! Here's some thoughts that might help you have a great Mother's Day this year!
Many parents and step-parents look forward to holidays, vacations and other family oriented events with excitement and anticipation. Unfortunately, we don't always get what we hope for. Here's a few ideas that can help.
Some adults hold onto the belief that kids are "emotionally sturdy" and able to easily bounce back from difficult experiences and painful emotions, but this just isn't the case. When parents are present for their kids emotionally, helping them to cope with negative feelings, and guiding them through periods of family stress, their children are shielded from many of the damaging effects of divorce.
You cannot fabricate bonds in your stepfamily! You can only create the opportunity for bonding to take place. Read this week's article and take steps toward new connections.
It's common when step-couples come together to be excited about merging and quickly becoming one big happy family. This sounds reasonable, but when stepfamilies attempt to 'blend' their complex dynamics (people, routines and backgrounds), they often run into problems. Find out the best strategy for integrating your stepfamily!
Marriage is a high priority! But in stepfamily life, you must have a strategy that elevates the priority of your partnership while supporting stability and growth in ALL the relationships in your stepfamily.