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When faced with difficult issues and conflicting emotions, I admit that I used to slide into negative thought patterns. In stepfamily life, it's easy for couples to get stuck in distorted thinking. I've been there! Find out how I overcame unproductive thinking and avoidance.
We all prioritize our days and weeks around something. (Whether we realize it or not.) When it comes to raising kids in a blended family, it's hard to know if we're prioritizing the right things. Here's 3 questions that will get you clear on what's really important.
Parenting and Partnership are inseparable in your step-family. Parenting takes teamwork, but the challenges of parenting can really mess up your team. Here's 3 things you need to protect your parenting and your partnership.
No one wants to deliberately head into the storm of conflict with their partner. Often, it seems more reasonable to simply avoid difficult conversations altogether. We've learned from our own experience that avoidance doesn't make anything better! Here's 3 steps to moving past avoidance and improving your communication.
Parenting in a blended family hits close to the heart. It's emotional and often causes conflict for step-couples. When you each stay focused on your own role, you can minimize that conflict and revolutionize your parenting partnership!
Creating connections in blended families isn't always intuitive. The most successful step-couples work on it as a team. Here's 5 steps you can take together that will help create more connection.
Every stepfamily has unique dynamics and distinctive qualities. Even in their uniqueness, every step-couple needs these three things in order to thrive — not just survive.
Entering into stepfamily life, bio-parents can have idealistic hopes, beliefs and expectations. But often the 'vision' of their family's future together doesn't seem to match reality. Discover 3 "P's" that will help parents avoid feeling frustrated and disappointed when things don't go as expected.
Conflict is simply a reality for step-couples. You already know this if you've been in a stepfamily for any length of time. The good news is, you can choose what kind of conflict you'll engage in. Here's three things you can clarify to avoid toxic conflict and choose healthy conflict instead!
An old familiar song can trigger memories from the past. It's the same with our relationships too. If you want to really love your current relationship, you've got to confront the past. Here's three steps to get you started.
The flame of romance might seem to be snuffed out early in stepfamily life. Step-couples can be overwhelmed by all the complexities of their new family. Here's three things to focus on to keep your flames burning.
More than just the kids are part of the package in a blended family marriage. Past relationships can impact current ones. Who else is tangoing with you and your spouse?
Wouldn't it be great if all our awesome expectations came true! If that euphoric, joy-filled dream of a smooth transition into stepfamily life was our reality! Unfortunately, that's not usually the case…don't get discouraged. Here's 3 things you can do…
Extending empathy can be challenging in the complexities of stepfamily life. Sometimes it's easier just to avoid the discomfort of engaging in each other's struggles. Let's get better at responding with empathy so that we can lead our stepfamily toward connection!
Step-parents often feel like an outsider in their own home. Their spouse and step-kids share a connection that they just don't get. If you've ever felt this way in your stepfamily experience, you're a "stuck outsider"!
Parents in stepfamilies can often feel they are in a tug-of-war! They are stuck between their kids pulling them one way and their spouse tugging another. If you've ever felt that as a parent in your stepfamily experience, you're a "stuck insider"!
Step-family marriages can fall prey to the common issues of escalating conflict over money, sex and parenting just like all other couples. Yet it's the unique stepfamily challenges that can be so insidious. The divorce rate of stepfamily marriages is estimated to be double the divorce rate of first family marriages. But it doesn't have to be this way.
For moms and step-moms in stepfamilies, Mother's Day can sometimes be tainted with disappointment, resentment or heartache. But it doesn't have to be! Here's some thoughts that might help you have a great Mother's Day this year!
Living in a blended family can feel so "heavy" so much of the time. Here's a few simple ideas to lighten the load!
Parenting in stepfamilies is tough! Each partner has their own parenting style and specific ideas about the right way to handle parenting and discipline. Don't let disagreements lead to conflict in your relationship. Learn how to make a difference by choosing to 'PLEDGE' every time you hit parental bumps in the road.