168. Actionable Steps For Helping Kids Navigate Through Difficult Emotions and Problem Solve
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We've heard it said that behavior is the visible expression of invisible issues — it's the warning light on the dashboard.
Often, it's the warning light of our child's misbehavior that catches our attention, but what are the invisible issues going on under the surface?
Usually, it's difficult emotions.
When kids experience something troubling, negative emotions will naturally arise and often they aren't even aware of what's going on inside. Because kids lack emotional maturity, they tend to misbehave simply because they haven't yet learned how to manage the difficult emotions they're experiencing.
That means your kids and stepkids need your help!
If the kids living in your home tend to emotionally express themselves by getting angry, disrespectful, anxious, acting out or withdrawing from the family (just to name a few), this episode is for you.
You can learn how to come alongside your child or stepchild and help them to navigate through distressing situations and painful emotions and teach them how to problem-solve on their own — which often leads to more positive behavior.
Learning to become 'Emotion Coaching Parents' has been a game changer for us and it's one of the best things we've done to equip our kids for adulthood. Discover the difference you can make in your kids' lives by following along this week with our 4 part mini-series on raising an emotionally intelligent child.
You'll Discover:
The amazing benefits of emotion coaching your kids and step kids
A step-by-step framework for becoming an emotion coaching parent (from John Gottman's book Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child)
How you can create strong bonds with your kids by understanding their emotional world and helping them navigate all the ups and downs of life
Resources from this Episode:
Episode 132. How does loss and grief impact blended family integration?
Episode 71. How to Help Kids Cope with Painful Holiday Disappointment
Episode 28. What if what you think is defiance is actually something else? (Counter will)
Episode 141. Can my kids be emotionally harmed by blended dynamics?
Episode 74. How to develop appropriate and effective consequences that empower responsibility
Parenting Style Quiz (from John Gottman)
Book by John Gottman: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child
Emotions Chart (for young kids)
Emotions Poster (for young kids)
Feel Wheel (for young kids)
Feel Wheel Sticker (for teens & adults)
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